Emotional purity in dating

It would be easy to dismiss Harris’s fretting as merely advice that preteens, teenagers, or immature people should avoid dating until they mature.

In Harris’s view, the arc of a godly romantic relationship progresses from friendship, to courtship, then engagement, and, finally, marriage.By seeking her father’s permission to court, a man honors his role and elicits his wisdom.Fathers have the ability to end relationship before it begins. In these cases, Harris advises men “don’t undermine his leadership—honor it even if it means waiting longer or doing things differently than you had planned.” Families also provide oversight thought the courtship.He touches briefly on friendship, only because it is the prelude to courtship.The basis of friendship is “mutual interest” and a desire to enjoy those commonalities together.