Men and women in the military lead busy lives — to say the least.Not only are they fighting for our country and our freedom, but they can also be away from family, friends, and their homes for months or sometimes years at a time.And it wasn’t until I started living with and had a child with a veteran of the United States Military, that I realized that while he left the military years ago, the military cannot – and will not – leave him.I’ve learned that, when going out to eat, I will never again sit in a chair or booth that faces the door or entryway.They make a lot of sacrifices, which means their dating lives can suffer.The good news is there are dating websites out there specifically for them.
Most everyone are considered potential threats and the consistent vigilance he cannot help but display can become exhausting.
He won’t completely relax until he is back at home with his family, so big adventures to extravagant social functions are few and far between.
I’ve learned that while I am his best friend and the mother of his child and his forever partner, there is a closeness only he and his brothers in arms will share.
I’ve learned that when my partner grows quiet and reserved and spends time on the phone, shaking his head and sighing, it’s because another former shipmate has died – due to drugs or alcohol or suicide – all because our government and our society and the very people who like to publicly celebrate the military a few days out of the year, neglect them.
I’ve learned that we are so quick to say we care about our military members and military veterans, but that’s a heavy dose of lip service followed by very little action.